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Dear Amy: “Glenda” and I person been friends for 43 years. Glenda and her sister “Brenda” are twins — and I’m friends with some of them!
Glenda’s 60th day was coming up. After months of deliberation and pandemic restrictions we decided connected a tiny radical going to a section casino for brunch and fun.
Glenda, Brenda and I were successful connected the plan. Glenda wanted to invitation 2 friends but didn’t privation her sister to invitation anyone. However, Brenda and I person a communal person we wanted to include. (All of these radical were successful my wedding, and we each person been friends implicit 35 years).
We were going to get an Uber to instrumentality america truthful we could person much fun, but with Covid we were going to person to instrumentality 2 Ubers and conscionable astatine the venue. No problem, right?
Well, Glenda said that would NOT work. She insisted connected going unneurotic and celebrating connected the mode over.
Well, you can’t portion successful Ubers, truthful partying connected the mode implicit was retired of the question.
We got successful a immense combat implicit the telephone astir the other idiosyncratic that her sister and I invited.
She threw retired the comment, “I thought you were MY person and it’s MY day you are ruining.”
She kept forgetting that she is simply a duplicate and that I americium friends with both!
Amy, she said our relationship is over! Our relationship is implicit due to the fact that of an Uber ride?
I miss Glenda, and I americium inactive large friends with Brenda, but Glenda and I person a longer history.
My ain 60th day came and went without fanfare and without Glenda.
We person exchanged a fewer pleasantries implicit Facebook, and I person adjacent considered bringing her a “peace lily,” but possibly this relationship has tally its course.
How should I mend it?
— Double Trouble Friendship
Dear Double Trouble: You cognize that large infinitesimal successful the movie “Jaws” wherever Richard Dreyfuss’ quality picks up a cookware afloat of assemblage parts and angrily declares: “This was NOT a vessel accident?”
Well, this is NOT astir an Uber ride.
“Glenda” did not support “forgetting” that she happens to stock a day with her twin, I guarantee you.
Her highly selfish effect to your plans seems precise small astir you and each astir sharing a day with her twin.
Glenda, rather simply, does not privation to share.
In my opinion, the idiosyncratic who should present a “peace lily” is Glenda.
Of the 2 sisters, her duplicate “Brenda” received the champion day gift, which is an ongoing relationship with you.
Enjoy it.
Dear Amy: I person been with my fellow for 18 years. We are not married.
He has asked maine 3 times to get married, but helium has ne'er committed to me.
For the past six years we person lived with his parents.
His begetter is simply a bully who belittles his woman each time each day.
If helium doesn’t get his way, helium gets aggravated and acts worse than a three-year-old.
His begetter is successful his 80s, but I don’t blasted his property for his nastiness. As agelong arsenic I’ve known him, he’s been a selfish, mean, nasty, tyrant.
My fellow is the aforesaid way.
Not arsenic atrocious arsenic his father, but arsenic the years spell by his choler has gotten worse.
He has this chronic “I hatred the world” cognition directed toward me.
Everything is my fault. He degrades and belittles me.
We don’t person children oregon pets, truthful nary worries determination and, again, we’re not married. Am I incorrect to permission our relationship?
— Tired
Dear Tired: In the clip it took for you to constitute your question, you could person contacted a friend, a household subordinate (or gone connected Craigslist) and recovered a impermanent lodging concern to get you retired of this household.
I anticipation you’ll bash that.
Dear Amy: “Just Sayin’” claimed that women should support themselves amended against groping and intersexual assault.
I besides taught my girl not to instrumentality harassment from anyone.
My beauteous girl is 5’10,” bold, and precise intelligent!
And past 1 time (when she was 19 years old) a co-worker raped her.
He had antecedently harassed her astatine work, but she was powerless to propulsion back.
My beauteous girl recovered it successful her to spell to the constabulary and the rapist was convicted.
I americium successful awe of her bravery. The unfortunate is NOT astatine fault.
— Mother of a Warrior
Dear Mother: I’m successful awe of her, too!
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